Out of Bounds

I'm a married woman. Does it sound so ridiculous that I think it's entirely inappropriate for a woman who is not single to dine or otherwise spend time alone with a man who is not her boyfriend, fiance, or husband? Because I do. I think that is entirely inappropriate and completely stupid of any woman to do. Likewise, it's my opinion that it's also completely inappropriate for any non-single man to spend time alone with a woman who is not his girlfriend, fiancee, or wife. I don't think that my believing that is ridiculous. I'll be honest, I don't really even like talking to other men who are not my husband, other than family members. There are some exceptions to the rule, but these conversations are short and take place in very public settings, like in class. If I do, I talk about Adam. I just don't think it's appropriate to build relationships with people of the opposite sex, one-on-one when you're involved with another person, engaged, or married.

That's why I don't. And I don't think that's very ridiculous. I don't think it's controlling, or a sign that I'm in an unhealthy relationship. Quite the contrary; I believe we should be able to interact with members of the opposite sex without creating problems. I just don't think it's appropriate to pursue "friendly" relationships one-on-one with members of the opposite sex if you're taken, engaged, or married. Couples spend time together. People spend time in groups. I will not spend time alone with any member of the opposite sex who is not in my family and completely trusted, period. I don't think that's very ridiculous. I think it's something more dating, engaged and married couples should consider. It might cut down the divorce rate, or at least lessen the temptation to commit adultery - spend time with your husband, not your boss. Angry with your wife or girlfriend? Don't vent it to your pretty female coworker. Don't even open that door. I don't think it's very ridiculous to consider working things out with your significant other. It works for us. Boundaries. Boundaries really aren't so bad. Have a healthy social life and a healthy marriage. You can have both. We do, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.